Dave Harm was born and raised in Northern New Jersey. He is
the youngest of four boys. He often mentions that while he and
his brothers had the same biological parents... they were raised by
different people. His three brothers grew up together,
separated by four years in age, they had each other to lean on.
In
age, Dave is six, eight, and ten years younger then his brothers.
Most of the damage of his parents drinking, he witnessed alone.
Others might have seen it... yet Dave had no one to lean on for
support.
His method of handling the insanity was playing
football in high school and partying. He started drinking when
he was 13 and started smoking pot when he was 17. Even with his
own partying already getting out of control, Harm stayed somewhat
centered by staying active in football. He earned a scholarship
for his athletic abilities to Yankton College in Yankton, South
Dakota. This was his exit to leave the insanity of his birth
home. With this new life he no longer felt the need to try and
get praise from his family and quit football and began enjoying his
new freedom.
He stayed in college for a year and a half
and dropped out to work on his new joy in life – partying. He
drove a delivery truck during the day to keep up an illusion that all
was well.
It was during this time in his life that
Harm couldn't do anything for more then two years and that included
work. He quit driving a delivery truck and found a new way to
make money - by dealing drugs. This too, lasted just short of
two years and he left South Dakota and headed back to New Jersey.
It
was in the early 80's that Harm lost the capability of quitting. It
was during the next eight years that Dave wandered around the
country... staying one step ahead of law enforcement and bill
collectors.
During this time his “homes” were
in New Jersey, South Dakota, Wyoming, and California. His last
stop in South Dakota started his life with homelessness. He
ended up in California, working odd little jobs, usually quitting
after he got a paycheck and he would hit the road again.
His
main method of travelling at that time was hitch-hiking. One of
his last rides came from a member of AA who gave him a job at a
mobile home park. Though he didn't stay sober, that job ended
his life of sleeping in boxes or under bridges.
In 1986
Harm tried suicide as a way to start a new life, which put him in
protective custody for 72 hours. It was during this time that
he admitted to being an alcoholic and started a new way of life.
This new way did not last and Harm returned to drinking in
1992.
During those five and a half years of sobriety
Harm's life changed. He became a functional member of society
and a reliable employee. His slip lasted two years and all that
he had accomplished he ended up losing.
On September 4,
1994, Harm not only admitted to being an alcoholic... this time
though he went another step forward by accepting this fact. And
by the Grace of God has been clean and sober to this day. Harm
is also an addict and has been clean from drugs since the late 80's.
Quitting drugs was easier for Dave, as alcohol was always his
drug of choice.
His journey in recovery has taken many
turns and he still views it all with the eyes of a child. He
has served on the Tamora (Nebraska) Village Board of Trustees. He
has also been on the Bishop's Committee for St. Andrews Episcopal
Church in Seward, Nebraska and also served as an adviser on St.
John's Lutheran Church's Board of Trustees in Seward,
Nebraska.
While serving others helped Dave obtain and
maintain humility, it wasn't till he moved to Southeastern Nebraska
that he began to use the gifts his Higher Power gave him at
birth.
In 2004, his first book Damaged Merchandise
was published and early in 2005 it was followed by War Zone.
Finally in 2009, the third book of this trilogy was published
entitled Creating Dreams.
Along the way Harm
ventured into other endeavours. In 2006 he was named a United
States Poetry Ambassador and his poem Scrambled Eggs received
The Editor's Choice Award from poetry.com. In 2007, he received
the Recovery Hero Award from the website Clean and Sober not Dead.
2007 Harm also became a freelance writer for the
Beatrice Daily-Sun newspaper and on every Tuesday for over two years
Harm edited a poetry column featuring poets from Southeastern
Nebraska.
From 2000 to 2009, Harm was the featured poet
for Gage County's Relay For Life. And in 2008, he took 12 of
his most inspiring cancer poems and produced the poetry and music
cancer CD entitled Purple Power.
In 2011, Harm
began broadening his outreach program and was the keynote speaker at
the Hot Springs, Arkansas Recovery Rally. By the end of the
year he became a Certified NLP Master Practitioner. By 2012 he got
his certification as a Life Coach and also as well as a certified
hypnotist.
From active addiction and homelessness to
sobriety and comfort, Harm shares his experience, strength, and
hope... with the humility and joy that comes with a second chance at
life. A second chance given freely by his Higher
Power.
By 2012, Harm had made connections with musicians
in Manchester, England. From this friendship, 12 of his poems
on alcoholism were turned into music, creating the recovery CD
entitled 12.
Dave Harm believes in the power of The
12 Steps. He has done these Steps in AA, NA, CODA, Alanon, and
ACOA. While he freely admits he has attended these meetings,
Harm will not say which Fellowship he is a member of in keeping with
the 11th Tradition.
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